1986-1991: Adolescence spent awaiting the arrival of puberty. Much to my disappointment, puberty passes me by.
1989ish: I'm taken to see a pediatric OB/GYN at a large Children's Hospital who decides to try an estrogen/progesterone challenge. I get a period, but am not seen for a follow-up. No other periods follow.
1990: My doctor puts me on the bcp to induce monthly cycles. I grow 4 inches in a year and start to develop something akin to breasts. Now, this is more like it.
1992-1995: Struggle with an eating disorder. A BMI of 12 lands me a treatment facility at age 20, where upon receiving very good care, I make a solid recovery. I kicked anorexia's tiny little ass.
1995-2000: Doctors at the treatment facility and my own OB/GYN suggest I continue taking bcp.
Summer 1999: My summer travel plans lend themselves well to NOT having periods (read: I am backpacking in grizzly country). I stop bcp for 3 months and nothing happens.
2000: Northern Lad and I break up and I obtain a consult from different OB/GYN who thinks that if I want to have a baby, I should start NOW!!! Oh! the irony of life. I am now single and not in any way ready to try having a baby on my own.
2004: Meet Mr. August and fall in love.
2007: Consult with local endocrinologist. For every week for 8 weeks, I have to go in for blood draws while off the bcp. Based on the results, the endocrinologist gives me a very grim prognosis in terms of ever having children. Nevertheless, he refers me to a private fertility clinic in Toronto.
Spring 2007: Mr. A and I attend a consult at private fertility clinic for information purposes. As neophytes, we are taken aback by the pressure we feel to start tests on that day. We walk out of there feeling like this is definitely not our clinic.
Fall 2007: We attend an information session by Fertility Treatment Town (FTT) clinic at a local venue. We like what we hear and decide that when we want to start trying, we want to work with this clinic.
January 2009: Ask family doc to refer us to FTT clinic.
March 2009: Initial appointment with Dr. RE at FTT clinic. My official diagnosis is Hypothalamic Amenorrhea. Dr. RE suggests that the first course of action is IUI with injectable gonadotropins.
March - April 2009: Run through all the diagnostic tests, including HSG.
May-June 2009: First cycle with meno.pur injections. No response from my ovaries
June - August 2009: Dr. RE proposes an estrogen priming protocol. I spend my summer on a whackload of estr.ace feeling hopeful that the next cycle will work.
September 2009: 2nd cycle with injectable meno.pur, but at increased doses from last time. Response is looking poor.
October 1, 2009: Ovaries are not responding at all: cycle cancelled. While no one says it directly, this means the end of the line for trying to have a baby with my eggs/genetic material. I am devastated.
October 2009 - Fall 2010: Dark times
June 2010: I have lunch with my beloved friend Sattva and she offers to donate her eggs. We both decide that we need to think this through and that she needs to talk to her husband before we go any further.
September 2010: Start DE process at our clinic.
September 2010 - December 2010: Screening process for Sattva.
January 2011: Psychological evaluations for both Sattva and her husband, as well as Mr. A and I.
February 2011: Start of Donor IVF cycle.
March 15, 2011: Egg retrieval. Sattva weathers this very well. 6 eggs are retrieved, 4 fertilize.
March 18, 2011: Embryo transfer. 2 nice looking embryos are transferred. None can be frozen.
April 2, 2011: POAS indicates pregnancy: Beta at 15dp3dt = 1210. Oh. My. Word. I am pregnant!
April 19, 2011 (my 37th birthday): First ultrasound indicates a growing embryo with a heartbeat.
April 26, 2011: Second ultrasound shows appropriate growth and a continued heartbeat. We graduate from the fertility clinic.
May 25, 2011: Ultrasound reveals a miscarriage. Our little owlet stopped growing at 9w0d.
May 26, 2011: D&C. the OB/GYN who performs the surgery feels that the most likely reason for the miscarriage was a genetic problem with the embryo. She urges us to try again with younger eggs.
June 2011: During appointment with Dr. RE, he shares that he can't rule out lining issues as the culprit for the miscarriage. Proposes to do an endometrial biopsy to find out more about the cytology of my endometrium.
July 2011: Start the process for private domestic adoption
September 2011: Endometrial biopsy. Results say all is well with my lining, and the thickness was much better this time. Dr. RE recommends that we consider doing DE IVF in the US.
November 2011: Contact Shady Grove and get the process for International Donor Egg IVF started.
January 6, 2012: One day consult at Shady Grove.
February 2012: Mock cycle with Dele.strogen. After a bit of proding, my lining thickens up appropriately.
March 2012: Donor selection
April/May 2012: clawing face off while going through endless delays and experiencing lack of communication from SG.
May 29, 2012: baseline ultrasound and bloodwork. Let the cycle begin!
June 18, 2012: egg retrieval
June 23, 2012: embryo transfer
July 5, 2012: POAS - BFP!!
July 6, 2012: beta #1 (13dp5dt) = 1200
July 9, 2012: beta #2 (16dp5dt) = 4090
July 23, 2012: viability scan at 7w0d = measuring 7w3d, heartbeat!
August 7, 2012: second ultrasound at 9w1d = measured 9w2d, heartbeat and wiggles.
August 28, 2012: 12w1d ultrasound = baby measured 12w5d and moved a lot. Subchorionic hematomas diagnosed: one large one (6.9cm) and one smaller (2.9cm).
September 14, 2012: Follow-up ultrasound = baby is very wiggly, and looks healthy. We later find out that there was a shadow on the ultrasound. Could be an amniotic band, a nonfused chorion or a uterine synechia. Crap.
October 5, 2012: First OB appointment. Dr. Smiley is wonderful. Ultrasound shows a plumper looking gummy.
October 19, 2012: Anatomy scan. Nonfused chorion is GONE! All is well.
November 1, 2012: monthly OB visit: pleasantly boring.
November 19. 2012: viability!!
January 2, 2013: growth scan. Find out that Gummy is a Girl!
February 13, 2013: gestational hypertension diagnosed. Start labetalol
February 27, 2013: start of induction
February 28, 2012: Gummy Girl is born at 19:05 via cesarean section (after induction failed)
March 5 & 6, 2013: hospitalized because of sky high blood pressure
March 9-10-11, 2013: hospitalized because of late postpartum hemorrhage due to retained products of pregnancy. Get a D&C to clean everything out, and blood transfusion to offset the blood loss. While the blood pressure drops dramatically at first, by discharge, it climbs right back up again. Must stay on labetalol for a while to control it.
March 11, 2013: Estimated Due Date & home from the hospital (hopefully to stay)
April 30, 2013: Stop labetalol. YEAH!